Sometimes good things come to an end. A good book, a good movie, even friendships. For me and Stacey it’s our marriage. I know
for some of our blog readers this might
come as a shock and devastating blow—know
this though: It has been a long uphill battle with many emotions and
tough decisions—lots of prayer and support, questions and tears. And after all this time honestly I am still
not sure why. I mean, I know the reason
why, but really what’s the reason?
God had a great
plan. He made a love story. His plan was the best plan, but things happen, people change. The reality is
this: God wins. The devil loses. It’s all pretty simple. The story is already written. It’s the in between that causes confusion.
We are going to be okay.
I know that. I know my
relationship with God has never been better.
I know we’ve both made mistakes, but the cool part: God knows it all and
he is still here with us. He is still a
part of me--and part of Stacey, too.
I wish I understood
what happened. Maybe I never will. I
have some theories and things I am choosing to believe in order to help me
heal, cope and forgive. I know I never saw my life heading in this
direction—not our marriage—not our life—probably because it wasn’t the plan.
Not God’s plan. Not our plan. During
this time I was reminded by a friend about a scene in the movie Lord of the
Rings... where Frodo is lamenting that the burden of the ring has fallen on
him. “I wish it need not have happened
in my time," said Frodo. "So
do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But
that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the
time that is given us.” I hope I handled
my time and my decisions in the best way that I could.
Don’t worry about me.
All I ask is that you just pray.
Pray for Drea and Charlotte. Pray
for me. Pray for our friends. Pray for our families. Pray for Stacey. It will be different and it isn’t going to
look like some think it should. Like I
said, God had a great plan. Even after all we’ve been through I fully trust
that God is in control and He created our stories. I am confident he will
restore and bring healing to all this brokenness. And certainly this was never
part of my plan—and didn’t end the way I had hoped—but my faith in a good God remains.
6 comments:
Andy, It was devastating to hear and my heart feels broken for you guys everytime you come into my thoughts (which is often). We love all of you and are praying, and will continue to do so.
Teresa
Andy,
I wish it would have ended differently. I wish there was something we could have done. I wish for you--it didn't have to hurt so bad. And for the girls too. I've been trying to teach the boys lately when things don't go the way we want or pray them to go--God is still working. He sees the big picture and he's in control. I think thats what so encouraging about the bible stories--seeing God all the way through. And as we grow older having those experiences that prove he is working in us and through our circumstances even when we can't see. I know that for you too. We we all continue to pray healing and restoration for you, Stacey and the girls.
Andy you know I love you with all my heart and that I never thought that this would happen. I am, however, proud of how you have hung onto your faith and how God has supplied all your needs and more. I know that He will continue to be with you and give you the desires of your heart. I, of course, will continue to pray for all of you! Love, Mom
Dear Andy
PJ gave me this link when I asked him how things turned out with the divorce. He is so proud of you and Andy, I am too. You walked through this whole thing with such integrity and strength. I know how hard that was to do. I will continue to pray and trust God to give you the same strength for this next season of your life. I will be praying for healing, wisdom for you and the girls, good friends,grace, peace, good health ,hope and most of all love. I will pray you continue to draw your strength from the Lord and you can hear His voice above the din and clatter of the world. You are loved.
Beckie (mom 2)
Wow.... This is killing me right now. :(
Andy,
I am shocked to read about you and Stacey, but remember everything happens for a reason. It may not seem obvious now but will become evident in time.
McKenna ran across some photos of little Drea the other day as she was looking through our photos, and asked "Who dat, Mommy?" I told her it was some friends of Mommy and Daddy's--and it made me think about you all and wonder how you are doing.
I wish the best for all of you during this trying time, and if you ever need anything at all please do not hesitate to reach out--we're at the same address, same number, etc. Many prayers for your family!
Love,
Lindsay Wiles
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